Last year I heard the concept presented to me that one way relationships were dehumanizing. I heard this in context of our relationship with God (or gods). Here was the argument:
If you have to comply with a set of divine directives from a perfect God, it is dehumanizing. Because the relationship is one way. YOU make all the change. The God (or gods) just have to make the directives, you must comply or you fall short of perfection (or the rules) and suffer the consequences.
This was a very profound argument. Made by a christian minister whom I respect very much, and he was talking about Nietzsche’s philosophy. I had an astounding thought of my own. It is probably not new in the world but it was new in my mind. WE, the human race, have chosen to dehumanize our selves as a group. Please hear out my thoughts.
The human race so far back as I can look back in history, which is not very far I will admit, has always had this need to progress forward and drive on. We as a group seem to have this need to continually move in the direction we see as forward at almost any cost. We look to these mythical ideas of progress, advancement, idealism, technology, perfection, etc. and we push towards them often times without thinking it through, or often being forced to push towards them by society or other forces conscious of them or not.
We have started turning people, relationships, and living things into formulas and plans. Businesses, governments, churches, and even individual relationships have tried to reduce individuals into components that can be predictable, replaceable and formulaic. We want them to follow a set of rules that we understand, can predict and control. While we ourselves are forced to follow rules that are in turn understandable, predictable and controllable. After all how can we be effective, efficient, or productive when we don’t know your output? or we don’t know how many widgets you can make in an hour for the rest of your life? or how many sermons on tithing can your parishioners bear before they stop showing up yet still be able to pay the bills? or how sexy do you need to be to keep your partner interested another week? How much money do you need to make to be successful?
We have inadvertently turned everything into a metric. Because of science and math, neither of which is bad mind you, we’ve started to turn everything into a set of numbers to be quantified and calculated, to determine the rules that govern them. Whether it is about people’s morality, sexuality, work output, or breaking points. We take all of these metrics and turn it into vast amounts of data. The data warehouses we fill now are immense, zettabytes of data have been probably been collected at this point if not more. This “data” concept mixes in with the post industrial revolution as well where everything must be maximized and minimized, not just macro but on the micro scale.
We have think tanks, artificial intelligent programs, universities, and businesses all trying to find and the correlate the data searching for hidden “rules”. And just like the rules from a divine being, rules from a set of data points are just as dehumanizing, (and often just as wrong), because the formulas are often wrong, and the suppositions are wrong, or data is missing, and correlations do not imply causality, or and the reality that past performance does not predict future behavior seems to be forgotten. Organic beings are not machines that can be made to perform repetitive tasks over and over again with consistent quality or without failing at a pre-determined point.
By taking this road we are choosing to dehumanize ourselves. We are creating boxes for ourselves to live in, with rules that we construct from guesses that we made from incomplete and inaccurate data.
Even with ALL of the information that can possibly be gathered we may be able to come up with accurate models, but I don’t believe we will ever actually understand all of it, nor accurately predict all of it. If we could what would be the point of living, at that point you would be doing exactly what the formula expect/determined/wanted. Isn’t what people hate about serving a divine set of rules? So why are they trying to make a new one? Unless they are trying to make a new one that they control the formula or rules themselves?
But it isn’t just big bad businesses, governments or institutions doing this. We do as individuals do too. We have become so used to things happening on a schedule, happening at a predictable price, with a certain quality, that we get ANGRY when that doesn’t happen. Think about it. The last time you went to a restaurant and did NOT get exactly what you ordered as fast as you wanted for the price you expected… were you angry or upset? Was it because the person behind the counter got it wrong? Maybe they didn’t hear you, didn’t type it right, or may be the person making the food didn’t read the order right, or just didn’t care, or didn’t make it right, or maybe the person picking it up just grabbed the wrong one? Who knows, there are probably a million factors. Each one of the biological units involved could have made a mistake. I bet the computers did what they were supposed to do. I bet the stove did what it was supposed to do, even the utensils probably did what they were supposed to. (Although utensils are in a physical unpredictable world they could have failed…) Or think about that most recent jerk in traffic who cut you off, or almost ran you off the road, or hit your car, … they didn’t follow the rules, the one’s you follow. Do you think of any these people as less human, as sub-par, worse, dumber, more inconsiderate, or lower than you? Could you do it better if you were them? Is it easier to think of them that way?
Now lets take the lesson home a bit, for those of you a bit older, what about your spouse or significant other? What about your job, you put in your time, you followed the rules but your boss decided to spend your bonus on a new SUV for himself instead of your bonus? Did you (in your head) collect metrics and data, make a formula, correlate what should happen, make up a set of rules then dehumanize the situation into a result you wanted (like a bonus?) ? Did you get your rules about marriage(s) or dating relationship(s) from a magazine? Cozmo or Penthouse? Both lead to dehumanization, you create rules that are in essence formulas that do not allow people to be organic, or just be people. People do not follow pre-defined rules. There must be give and take. Some complex rules try to build in give and take, but if in the end they are still about producing a result, or a quantity, or a quality, or a product: it is dehumanizing. By the word product I don’t mean something you necessarily have to package with shrink wrap and sell, it can be an idea, a faith, or even a self brand.
I’m not saying Rules and Formulas are all bad. Life is far more complicated than that. What I am saying is you cannot reduce LIFE and people (or God) into a set of rules and formulas. IF you do this in any area of your life you will become sadly disappointed, angry and bitter. You will have USED the people around you to get what you wanted out of the formula, and NOT experienced LIFE, and often times the formula’s only work for a while. When people figure out they have been reduced to a formula (even sub-contentiously) they break the formulas or the relationships. The people in your life would only have been variables in your formula, means to an ends. Not people.
"When quantity, quality and speed become primary factors by which everything is measured, everything else takes a backseat, including the essential aspects of life including such things as happiness, spontaneity and the freedom to fail."
We have been taught that science, or scientific method/reasoning, will solve all of our problems from the time we were little. (At least I was.) Scientific method will save the day! Hurah! But we are trying to apply science to things that cannot be touched, tasted, seen, smelled, heard, or measured. The core aspects of life. Science cannot solve everything because not everything is tangible, much less reproducible. Sorry science, you have your place, just not places that can’t be physically explored. The entire point of science was to separate the mystical from the physical. Now science wants to break into areas that cannot be measured or reproduced and it is ill equipped to do so, because from its very inception it was designed, created and built to only look at the real, the tangible and solid world around us. The same song may make a person happy 3 days in a row but on the 4th make them very sad. This is not reliably reproducible, and is contingent on so many things science cannot hope to claim to understand all the nuances. I am not saying that scientific thought and observation cannot be helpful in these areas I am saying they are not the answer. They are not the solution to the REAL problems in life.
I think the final point of my blog post is that we as a species are choosing to dehumanize our selves, we are putting ourselves by choice into rules and formulas where we have to produce according to a formula, and that it is very one sided. The formula and the rules do to not bend to us or take into account our lives, or wants, our needs or the very essence of who we are. Rules are important, we cannot have life or society without them however we cannot continue living when we reduce everything into an output. Think about this the next time you have dealings with a person, it is not necessarily about a transaction where you want to achieve a transnational goal or an objective, it is about life. You may need something or want something from a person or group, but if you are always following a formula in life or applying a set of rules to get what you want, you will be sorely disappointed. If you feel disillusioned and used in life look at the rules and formulas that have been applied to you and start to question them. You can’t just throw all of them out the window, but neither do you have to accept them all either. Everyone has been on both sides of this, both the user and the used, some people have been more on one side than the other. But take an inventory of where you are and start to question. I am.
Just one last note, I know I already did the wrap up but I wanted to include this, we often do this to ourselves. We think of what we should be according to some formula or rule that we understand be it from religion, or friends, or tv or where ever, and then we think less (or more) of our selves than we ought.